Here are some quotes from Dr. Bowen:
You have inherited a lifetime of tribulation. Everybody has inherited it. Take it over, make the most of it and when you have decided you know the right way, do the best you can with it.
That which is created in a relationship can be fixed in a relationship.
I consider rugged individualism to be an exaggerated pretend posture of a person struggling against emotional fusion. The differentiated person is always aware of others and the relationship system around him.
The basic building block of any emotional system is the triangle.
One of the most important aspects of family dysfunction is an equal degree of overfunction in another part of the family system. It is factual that dysfunctioning and overfunctioning exist together.
Overfunctioning is irresponsible responsibility.
It’s ok to have empathy, but one must get out of it quickly.
The goal is to rise up out of the emotional togetherness that finds us all.
In the history of calming down has anyone ever calmed down by being told to calm down.
The human has been slow to learn about his own inner space within his own skull. Thus far we have hardly scratched the surface.
All things being equal, the life course of people is determined by the amount of unresolved emotional attachment, the amount of anxiety that comes from it, and the way they deal with this anxiety.
Keep the momentum